May 30, 2012#


A few weeks ago, you may have read a piece I wrote for the ‘Things I’m Afraid To Tell You’ movement.

There are many wonderful blogs out there, with posts of the same title, sharing the truths and courage of the writers who create them. Here’s the list so far:

Participating bloggers – Round 1:

Design for Mankind | Little Brown Pen | Beautiful Hello | Curating Style | Sweet Fine Day | The Jealous Curator | Happy Days | Sage & Berries | Really Handmade | Peck Life | Satsuma Press | Rena Tom | For the Easily Distracted | The Hemborg Wife | Vitamini Handmade | Courtney Khail Stationery and Design | Meg in Progress | Dando Photography Blog | Widdershins22 | Alison Citron | Pink Moon Daily | Just Pretty Things | From China Village | Tea with Me | The Darling Ewe | Not Your Average Ordinary | The Electric Typewriter | Elleby Design | Parsimonia {Secondhand With Style} | Life as an Artistpreneur | Hello Cupcake | Dellie | The A & B Stories | Pretty Little Things | Feistyelle | Nib & Zed | Well and Cheaply | I Ripple. I Dance. | Whitfield Awesome Blog | Foxtrot Press | Dry As Toast | The List of Now | Apple Blue | For the Love of | Four Flights of Fancy | Miss Modish | Snapshots & Secrets | Dirty Laundry | Bubby & Bean | Penelope’s Press | Little Nostalgia | Vale Design | Pikaland | Fleurishing | Print Pretty | Vespa Tales | Hazel & Agnes | Amanda’s Musings | Mo’ Funk Designs | Ordinary Mommy | Camp 1899 | In Honor of Design | Liberty’s Yarn | Love, Life & Pictures | Stacey Winters | Owl in the Rain | Living Life Creatively | Emma Elizabeth Clease | I Live in Vacouver Now | British Cream Tea | Maquette | Little Paper Trees | Change is Necessary for Growth | Practically Perfect | Lovely Indeed | Radiant Republic | Teacher Goes Back to School | Acute Designs | This Little Street | The Proper Pinwheel | Kellee Rich | Gluten Free Travelette | Benbrie House | Sierra BB | Lost in Cheeseland | Going Home to Roost | Creative Soul in Motion | Quietly Fabulous | L’elephant Rose | The Anna Delores Blog | Some the Wiser | JRebecca Style | I Saw You Dancing | Wolfie and the Sneak | Threadbare Supply Co. | Lemonwood and Honey | Lolalina | This Texan Wife | C’est ma Vie |

TIATTY – Round 2 (list found at Mimi + Meg):

Coco + Kelley / Court & Hudson / Sacramento Street / My Cup of Te / Crystal Gentilello / MIMI+MEG / The Decorista / Modern Eve / Apartment 34 / Design Blahg / Vmac & Cheese / Miles to Style / Life in a Venti Cup  / The Zhush / Radiant Republic / Savvy Home / The Doctor’s Closet / Design Manifest / Because It’s Awesome / {extra}ordinary wonders / Sparkling Footsteps / Hitha On The Go / Note To Self / So Much To Smile About / Blogstar / The Goods Design / Style & Pepper / Small Shop Studio  / Long Distance Loving / Maggie Rose Blog / The City Girl In Me / The Best Laid Plans / Concrete Jungle DC / Food Fashion Fitness / East Coast Chic

TIATTY – Round 3 (organized by Lights & Letters)

Jill at Terra Savvy | Erica at The Elbow | Jen at Taking Off the Mask | Kate at Modern Home Modern Baby | Laura at My So Called Sensory Life | Monique at Razing Mayhem | Caroline at Salsa Pie | Leslie at Life In Every Limb | Tammie at Tam.Me | Melanie at Inward Facing Girl | Amy at Old Sweet Song | Michelle at Early Mama | Jen at Jen Epting | Leslie at Lights and Letters  | Sarah at SAWK Photography

(via Ez – thanks Ez!)

What it was all about for me was connection. A more truthful, more honest connection with people whose work we look at every day; whose words we read; whose photos we gush over; whose lives sometimes seem more together and more productive than our own.

The very point of these pieces is to demonstrate how, under the Photoshopped sheen, there is no such thing as a perfect life; that the people who write blogs that show pretty things, neat things, also have worries, insecurities, real-life problems, and while we might presume perfection based on what we’re presented with, the truth is often more fragile, more messy, more human. And all the richer for it.

To me, connection is everything. It gives us purpose, and cause, and gives our lives depth, colour.

This past week I’ve had several chats and Skype calls with my dearest friend, who is currently 7,000 miles away, building her dream life. We’re each going through similar things at the moment, despite the marked differences in our circumstances, and talking it out, encouraging each other to dig deeper to work out what’s important and therefore what to strive for, has revealed one simple truth: that connection is everything. Connection with ourselves; connection with others.

The ‘Things I’m Afraid To Tell You’ movement was featured on the Huffington Post blog yesterday, along with interviews by Lauren Rossi Totten of My So Called Sensory Life with Jess from Makeunder My Life, whose post kicked it all off, and with Ez of Creature Comforts, who made the internet light up with it.

If you’re tempted to join in, I would highly recommend it. There are no rules – just use the ‘Things’ title for your post and type away! I can’t tell you how liberated and connected I felt when I hit publish. It’s already had quite an effect on my blog, and the direction it’s going in. I’m so happy to be involved.

I really liked what Lauren Rossi Totten wrote at the end of the piece:

“I think I can speak for all of us when I say that we hope that TIATTY will continue to travel across the blogosphere because as any of these bloggers will tell you when we face our fears, we free our true selves.”



  1. You are absolutely right. Connection is everything. It’s odd how separated we can feel from our readers and from other bloggers for various reasons. I’ve never been a fan of reading blogs that only show their picture perfect life. So it’s refreshing to see more of us just being honest and raw. That’s what life is about.

    • Hi Sherisa, thanks so much for taking the time to comment :) I totally agree: that seperation is so easy to feel when one is at home, reading about peoples’ lives through a screen. For the most of my week, I’m at home alone working on my freelance business, and that lack of connection feels very real – so it’s great to know that there are swathes of bloggers (Including myself!) who are becoming interested in showing a more authentic – and as you say ‘raw’ – picture of our lives. The connection becomes real and I think our compassion for others (and ourselves) grows. It’s a wonderful thing. :)

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